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The First Look: Should You Do One or Stick to Tradition?

Colin Hayden

One of the decisions couples face when planning their wedding day timeline is whether to have a “first look” or stick to the traditional aisle reveal. The first look, where the couple sees each other before the ceremony, has become increasingly popular in recent years. But is it right for you? Let’s explore the pros and cons of both options to help you decide what fits your vision for your wedding day.

The Traditional Aisle Moment

Traditionally, couples don’t see each other until the bride walks down the aisle. For many, this moment is filled with anticipation, excitement, and emotion.

Pros:

  • Heightened Emotions: The traditional aisle moment is iconic. There's something magical about seeing your partner waiting at the end of the aisle, surrounded by loved ones. The anticipation builds all day, leading to a breathtaking moment full of raw emotion.

  • Keeps Tradition Alive: For those who value tradition or want to keep a sense of formality, waiting until the ceremony can feel like a meaningful continuation of age-old wedding customs.

  • Shared with Guests: If you love the idea of sharing this big reveal with your guests, the aisle moment allows your friends and family to witness your partner’s reaction as you walk toward each other.

Cons:

  • Tight Timeline: If you choose to stick to tradition, your couple’s portraits and full wedding party photos will need to be squeezed into a limited amount of time between the ceremony and reception. This can be stressful if the schedule is tight or if you're aiming for a variety of photos.

  • Less Time Together: Without a first look, the first time you’re really together on your wedding day will be at the ceremony, which can leave you feeling rushed to fit in quality time.

The First Look

The first look is a more modern option, where the couple shares a private moment before the ceremony to see each other for the first time. It's often more intimate and can take some pressure off the rest of the day.

Pros:

  • More Time Together: Your wedding day goes by quickly! A first look gives you a quiet moment together before the ceremony, allowing you to enjoy each other’s presence before the whirlwind of events begins.

  • Calm Your Nerves: If you or your partner tends to get anxious, a first look can help ease those jitters. Seeing each other in a private setting can be a comforting way to relax before walking down the aisle.

  • More Photos, Less Stress: One of the biggest benefits of a first look is the flexibility it gives your timeline. You can knock out some of your portraits, wedding party photos, and even family shots before the ceremony. This means less rushing around after the ceremony and more time to enjoy your cocktail hour.

  • Private, Intimate Moment: Unlike the aisle moment, the first look allows you to experience your partner’s reaction in a quiet, personal setting. You can talk, laugh, cry, and really soak in the moment without the eyes of your guests on you.

Cons:

  • Less Anticipation at the Ceremony: One potential downside is that the traditional aisle reveal might feel less impactful since you’ve already seen each other. However, many couples find that the ceremony still feels emotional and special, even after a first look.

  • Breaks with Tradition: If you’re someone who loves the idea of keeping with wedding traditions, the first look may not feel as aligned with your vision.

Which One is Right for You?

Ultimately, deciding between a first look or waiting for the traditional aisle moment comes down to your personal preferences and priorities for your wedding day. If you love the idea of a private, calming moment with your partner and want a relaxed timeline, a first look might be perfect. But if you’re excited about building anticipation and sharing that special moment with your guests, sticking to tradition can create a magical ceremony reveal.

Whatever you choose, I’ll be there to capture the raw emotion and joy, ensuring that your special moment—whether it’s down the aisle or before the ceremony—is preserved in timeless, beautiful images.

Still deciding on your wedding day timeline? Let’s chat! I’m here to help you craft a photography plan that fits your vision and captures all the magic of your big day. Contact me today to get started!

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